Archive for the ‘Love’ Category


What if God’s love is without agendas?

May 14, 2011
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I was just struck by a thought expressed by which stated: 
“It’s nice to know that God didn’t choose me to change me. He actually wanted relationship with ME, the way I am today:)” 
I have been thinking about this truth for many years now. I admit though I had not pieced it together as nicely as that one statement. About 5 or 6 years ago I began to realize that we all have agendas. We even “love” people with our own agendas thinking we know best what other’s needs. We want people to feel loved so they will come to our church, or join our MLM or anything else that in reality benefits one’s self. Love is not about our needs or desires, ever as great as they may be. Love has no agenda but, to seek what is most beneficial for the person being loved. (I know that is sort of a sloppy definition and I am reading a great book that I will do a review on in the next few weeks- months).
We often say “God loves you as you are, but will not leave you there.”  While that is true, we then insert an agenda that God wants to heal, fix, or change you in some way. I wonder, that while those things may be byproducts of God’s love working in us and through us, if God’s only agenda is to love us without any of that other stuff (especially change), attached to His love for us. God is Love. Love covers a multitude of sins.  Love builds up… these are but a few of the love verses, of which the greatest one is in 1 Corinthians 13: 
  1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love. (NKJV)
Notice that love has no agenda but to love? The challenge then is to allow God to love. Be a person a drunk, gay, straight, transgender, lesbian, normal, weird, clean, smelly… you know like a real person who needs love! We all need to be loved and feel loved. We all need to feel accepted as we are in all our junk. While agendas should be set aside to give true love, true love will not leave a person unchanged or challenged. We may plant, others water, but God makes things (people) grow. Only God’s love can reach inside the hurting and damaged areas of our lives. So, what if we started loving others without agenda or need for them to change for further acceptance? What if God works best when the heart is full of His love and we get our agendas (as great as they are) out of the way and let God love others through us? Are you up for the challenge? 
If you want to further study on this topic there is an great podcast here

Romans 12: 9-21 ; thoughts on the Just War theory.

March 1, 2011

Romans 12:9 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. 11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. 12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 13 Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.
14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.

17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 On the contrary:

“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”
21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Romans 12:9-21 (NIV)

War is never Just. I often wonder if the Just War Theory is just the Christianized version of Jihad…


Jay Bakker

January 27, 2011

Link to video

“You may not agree with me, but at least you will
learn to love me.” ~ Jay Bakker

Just some quick thoughts:

Powerful. Love covers a multitude of sin… not doctrinal statements… Those often create barriers between those Jesus reconciled and Jesus… Learning to love God and others is the core teaching of Jesus.

Your thoughts?


A message from my friend Ivan

August 25, 2010

Update: Please donate to Afaayo Fundation Uganda just fill in the blank with the amount you want to pay. It is prefered that you go through Google at this time though you can choose PayPal if you cannot use Google.
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A message from my friend Ivan Andrew Kusasira

Please help give a Ugandan vulnerable child a future by sponsoring her/his education or giving a one time donations. Schools opened yesterday….. we are looking forward to raising US$1015 more to have them all covered.

Your donations of at least US$30 will be a great help for a child to attend school this coming school term. If the Lord leads to give more, we will be more than grateful.
You can give online through Paypal by clicking here and inserting the recipient e-mail address as
We will be grateful to hear from you.
God bless


Happy Father Day… even for the fatherless…

June 18, 2010

Father’s Day is coming up fast and I have mixed emotions. While I am glad to be a father, my own father died when I was young. This seemed to set me apart from other friends at times. Being fatherless often left me empty, but especially at times when not having a father sort felt like it was being rubbing in my face. Father/son camp outs or any other events that were father/son made me feel unwelcome. Father’s Day though made me want to just hide.
Yet, now that I am a father, I find it wonderful at the same time. Not that I am being “honored” rather that I am honored everyday to have two wonderful children I love very much. My life has been truly changed and opened wider by Fischer and Ciana. While I may still struggle at trying to figure out how to be a father, I am thankful for the men who did guide me on my way. Without their guidance and prayer who knows where I would be now. Mostly, I am thankful for my Father in Heaven who promised to be my Father as he promises all who are fatherless. He is the Father of the fatherless. If you did not have a father, be it he died, left you abandoned, remember the One True Father who will never leave you or forsake you. This is true even if you have a father who was not emotionally there or even abusive. The One True Father loves you far greater than you can imagine.
The hardest thing all of us have to do is trust Him… and even in that He will help you.
With God, there is no fatherless day…

Please consider helping

February 18, 2010
Please consider this opportunity this summer to help out at Afayo Uganda Foundation. If you are interested let me know and I will connect you to Ivan to work out the details. Also, there is a donation button on this site (the second one). If you donate, please send me a note so I can keep track of where the money came from.
Hello Carlos,
Praise Jesus Christ the Son of the Living God. Hope all is well with you. I know it has been sometime without hearing from us but its all because of the turbulence we have been going through as a ministry.
I am of the request, that if it would be possible, we would organize a fundraiser for the tuition of the children. We need US$ 1151 towards this alone.
Secondly, we need some volunteers or missionaries who would be willing to serve with us for sometime maybe this summer or earlier. They should be willing to serve with the administration as well as in the village. Whenever you have or can find someone who is willing or wishing to come over to Africa to serve with us; that will be awesome.
Concerning the website, it’s in its final stages of designing and we will need to raise some funds for the hosting which is about US$95.
As soon as we realize this, the website will be up in just the next 24 hours.
We still don’t have power and internet at the office. So whenever i get time to write to you, I do so.
Hope to hear from you soon.
God bless you so much.



What if you become what you believe?

February 16, 2010
What if your ideas and belief in God, makes you ultimately like that God? What if, you become what you believe? What if your belief is in an angry God who only is concerned with justice, instead of a God of compassion who is willing to forgive yet still will give justice to those who do not choose to live in that forgiveness and find new life?
Will their view and belief in God as angry not reflect in how they treat others? God is love. Love knows not fear. Fear has to do with punishment, yet if one believes that God will punish them, are not be perfected in love. Instead of loving their enemies, they seek vengeance. They even justify that somehow they battle against flesh and blood though the bible is clear that is not where our battle lies.
However, what if the ultimate vengeance is forgiving your enemies, and forcing them to choose to let your forgiveness become their reality, which takes humility and the other choice is to reject your forgiveness and letting their pride become their shame and end?



Control and true freedom

December 20, 2009
Control and freedom are interesting topics in themselves. If one is in control is he free or reacting to what is happening around them to maintain that control? If one is a servant or slave, there is a sense of freedom from the responsibility of higher things others are controlling so one is free to pursue other thoughts, wants or desires. Yet, that person is still not “free” as they are subservient to the lord, master, or boss.

I do not believe we are at the mercy of others control, yet see this tension that holds these things in place. In a way, I see that we may be a slave to one thing, then free to others, yet also then become a slave to that other thing. Being free to me is more than the fulfillment of my want or desires. I see it as sort of surrender. I may be a surrender to something far superior than one’s self that works hand in hand with trusting this superior “Being” which I believe has a person’s best interest in mind.

To surrender one self to pursue this best seems a means of freedom to me that leads to higher freedom. It brings the ability to love in spite of hate, to give in spite of need, or to forgive when wronged. It is bringing one’s self as not at the mercy or whim of one who wants to harm or does not have a person’s best interest in mind.



An Atheists View of Christians: Christians for Torture

November 24, 2009
Brothers and sisters, the world is watching us. Don’t you get that? They seem to sometimes know more how we should act that we do! My friend Steve Lay who has a blog called The Groundworks emailed me this article and really, it breaks my heart…
Christians for Torture
So what in the world is an atheist to think when he sees the widespread Christian support for torture? Yes, torture. But don’t Christians claim to follow the ethics of Jesus and the apostles in the New Testament? These are unbelievable poll results. Christian torture advocates should be ashamed of themselves for being so ignorant of New Testament ethics. We associate torture with the Soviet Union under Stalin, China under Mao, …..
It is pastors who ought to be teaching and warning their congregations about what is wrong with the U.S. empire, the U.S. military, the CIA, U.S. wars, and U.S. foreign policy. Instead, we have pastors that lead their congregations to pledge to the flag, sing praise to the state on every national holiday, and honor the U.S. war machine on special military appreciation days.
What have we come to in the United States when people who name the name of Christ support torture? How dare Christians criticize Muslims for saying that Islam is a religion of peace and then advocate the torturing of suspected terrorists? By their support for torture, Christians have given “great occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme” (2 Samuel 12:14).
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Do You Love Gay People? – A Love Issue

November 11, 2009
The comments are really revealing as to how blind and hateful some really are. Sadly many do not even realize how hateful their words are… when someone states:

We should love people the way God loves them; with truth, and pure love. There is gay people outthere who would be willing to change their lives and accept Jesus as their personal Savior. We as christians, cannot decide who will accept Jesus or who won’t. Our duty is to share the Gospel of Jesus Christ with our own testimony, and with Love. I have known gay people who repented and now are living a normal life (according to God’s purpose). Believe me, God can still change people’s lives. Let’s pray for all those beautiful people (including gay people) who need Jesus as their personal Savior. Amen.
Sadly this is one of the more “loving” comments posted on the site. Yet, when a gay person hears a Christian say the word “change” they hear us saying they must clean up their lives before they come to Jesus! That is NOT the Gospel… We are saved by Grace, straight or gay.
The hate just keeps on coming proving the video over and over again as right on, yet as you can see they are blind to their own hate. It is time to stop hating and start loving… Will you take a stand for Unconditional Love?